They don’t need you and that’s the point.

Someone once asked me, half-joking, half-serious:

“Aren’t you afraid of losing your spot, always coaching and training everyone around you?”

Building pillars around you.

I get the question.

I’ve asked it myself.

Because it’s true: The more you give, the more you help others become autonomous. And the more autonomous they become…the less they need you.

But here’s what people often forget: The more you share, the more you grow.

Presence, like love, multiplies. Learning does too.

The more I coached, the more I found words for what I used to know instinctively.

The more I guided, the more I evolved. Not despite the giving, because of it.

True leadership isn’t about staying at the center.

It’s about planting deep enough roots…that you can step back for a while and watch others take the lead.

Not because they want to replace you. But because you’ve shown them they could rise.

And that’s not a loss of power. That’s the proof of your impact.

And if it feels a little scary, that’s okay. When you’ve poured your heart into a role, a team, a mission…taking a step back can feel like a risk. But sometimes, that’s exactly when you see if what you’ve built… actually holds. Without you yes. But thanks to you.

And sometimes, no one will congratulate you.

No one will say thank you, no medal. No pat on the back.

But you’ll know. You’ll know your part mattered.

Just because you’re not in the spotlight…doesn’t mean you didn’t spark something.

There are people who hold up entire walls. but we only notice them when they fall.

We live in a world that often celebrates the visible: The numbers, the recognition, the job titles. But there’s another kind of acknowledgment.

More intimate.

More enduring.

The kind you feel when you watch your team move forward…and you whisper to yourself: “They don’t need me anymore and that’s a good thing.”

What if presence wasn’t just physical?

I once attended a talk by Jasmin Bergeron, and something he said stayed with me:

“Love is presence.”

But sometimes, presence means they know you’re there, even when you’re not. It’s feeling your support. Like an unspoken “I’ve got your back” floating in the background. A kind of trust, not overbearing, just… grounded.

Reassuring.

That’s exactly what I’m writing about in my book right now. The quiet leaders, the ones who build strong foundations behind the scenes. The ones who make a lasting difference, even when they go unnoticed.

So if you’re one of those people who gives, who builds in silence, who chooses trust even when it’d be easier to control everything…

Remember this: You’re building something that will stand. Not by carrying it all alone, but by building pillars around you.

You don’t need to be at the center to be essential. You’re already making a damn powerful difference. A real one.