I’m not an alien

I’m not an alien

At least, that’s what I used to tell myself.

I often said to my team:

“I assume I’m not an alien. So if I notice something, if I feel it, there’s a good chance our clients do too. So let’s adjust.”

That was my compass. My way of reminding us that we shouldn’t wait for a complaint before adjusting. That we could train ourselves to see before, to feel during and to prevent, rather than repair.

But the more time goes by… the more I realize that maybe, yes,

I am a little alien.

Or rather... I just have a unique kind of wiring. Not “weird” or “apart” and honestly, who gets to define “weird” anyway? We’re all someone’s “weird.”

But I’m talking about that persistent feeling that the way I perceive, feel and connect with the world…has never been quite “standard.”

And for a long time, I thought that was the problem.

Today, I know: it’s precisely what makes me strong.

I was often told I was “too much.”

Too intense. Too deep and too emotional.

I spent over 20 years in customer service. First in hospitality, then in banking, where I held management positions for over a decade.

Environments where performance, results, and precision are what’s valued.

And me? I felt everything.

The employee who says they’re fine… but whose body says otherwise.

The customer who suddenly gets irritated and no one knows why.

The mood in a team that shifts, with no words to explain it.

I didn’t need anyone to tell me. I could feel it and more often than not, I’d step in, before anyone even realized there was an issue.

My radar: what’s left unsaid.

Today, I can say it without hesitation:

That radar, it’s often what separates “decent” service… from a powerful human experience.

And it’s not something I learned in a manual.

It’s something I spent years trying to mute, normalize, or hide.

But it’s also what helped me build solid teams. Create deep trust and also spot rising talent before it bloomed and guide people toward roles where they could shine.

I now work with humans who, like me, spent years thinking they had to adjust to everything. To tone themselves down.

Make themselves small.

Not disturb anyone.

But the way they move through the world is not a flaw to fix. It’s a strategic strength, a misunderstood superpower.

And I’m here to help them use it as an anchor.

For all the “functional aliens”

Maybe I’m not literally an alien.

But I am one of those people who…

• Notices things others don’t seem to see

• Feels when the energy in a room shifts, even without a word

• Asks questions that rattle people a bit… because they go straight to the heart of things.

  
  

I’m one of those people who spent years wondering if I was “normal.

”Telling myself maybe I’m the problem. Until the day I realized: I wasn’t broken. No, I was simply wired to feel more deeply than most and I just didn’t know that yet.

And if you’re still reading…Maybe you’re part of the club too.

Not the club of people to “fix”, but the humans who deserve to express themselves fully, without needing to justify it.

Not burnt out, just perceptive.

Brilliant.

Ultra-aware.

But often, they spend so much time adjusting, decoding, making sure they’re being interpreted the right way…that they end up wondering, quietly:

Is it just me?

And when that feeling shows up too often, you start to believe you are a little alien.

You start doubting what you bring. Filtering what you feel, just enough to be “understood.”

But you are not the problem. And you’re definitely not alone.

So, now what?

If I’m sharing all this today, it’s not just to tell my story. It’s because maybe you, too, have learned to question what you feel.

To downplay what you notice.

To believe your way of seeing the world is… too much.

But maybe that way you perceive, anticipate, and feel is actually your greatest asset.

In a world that moves fast, those who perceive differently are invaluable.

They’re the ones who create real connection, who prevent misunderstandings and who build workplaces that are healthy, not just productive.

So if you’ve ever asked yourself:

Is there room for the way I am in the professional world?

My answer is yes.

But maybe you need to stop adjusting your language, your rhythm, your way of being, just to be taken seriously…and start listening to yourself instead.

And if what you need is a kind mirror to walk that path with you, that’s exactly what I offer at DNA professional evolution.

Whether you’re preparing for an interview, navigating a career shift, improving communication at work, reconnecting with what motivates you or simply remembering what makes you you…I guide you with strategy, empathy, and zero judgment.

Your difference isn’t something to fix.

It’s the key to your impact.

Curious to explore it?

Come visit: https://www.adnevolution.ca/en/services